TMI Tuesday: August 4, 2020

1. It’s okay if you don’t wear any _____ .

Panties. I never wear panties anymore, or a bra. I love the sense of freedom going commando gives me. I’m convinced that panties and bras were designed by sadist Dominants as torture devises, which is one reason they love them. IMHO.

2. What on earth are you here for?

To learn, to experience and to share.

3. What has been the best day of your life?

I had to think about this one as there were many, but the best is the day my son was born. I had lost three babies prior to that, including his brother the year before and was told I could never have children, so find something else to do with your life. And then my son was born, with his blue eyes open wide and taking in the world around him. I called him my “golden child”.

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4. Are you ordinary or extraordinary? Why?

That depends on what context. Most things I am extraordinarily ordinary. A few things I am ordinarily extraordinary. Why? Only the universe can tell and it’s not talking.

5. How do you want to be described by your friends?

That she is curious and inquisitive and even when she has an answer she will search for more information. And that bugs the hell out of them.

Bonus: After a breakup, would you rather be alone or surrounded by friends?

I’m an introvert, so I would want to be left alone. But please be within emailing distance just in case.


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TMI Tuesday: July 21, 2020; Random

1. What movie can you watch over and over and never tire?

Steel Magnolias. Every time I watch it, I know what is going to happen, but I still cry at the end. I love the “circle of life” of the movie hitting each season and holiday. I relate to the part where M’Lynn talks about Shelby’s death; “I was there when that wonderful creature drifted into my life and I was there when she drifted out.” That’s how I felt when my daughter died. I was with her at her birth (obviously) and I was with her at her death.

2. Who is someone you only met once but they left a big impression on you?

I honestly can’t think of anyone.

3. If you had to run away from everyone, where would you hide yourself?

The top floor of a high-rise condo with a door that triple locked.

4. What is the worst topping to put on a pizza?

Pineapple.. no anchovies, yes, anchovies…. and pineapple.

5. What do you spend most of your time doing?

Readin’ and writin’… my first grade teacher would be so proud. I was talking about this with my brother…. our mother died of Alzheimer’s at the age 84. I can’t think of anything worse than losing your memories because you end up losing your identity too. My mother rarely read because she had difficulty in reading, she dropped out of high school in her junior year. The only thing she ever wrote was letters and her letters were beautiful and elegant. We tried to get her to write her autobiography but she insisted there was nothing to say. So I try to read and write constantly to keep my brain exercised. I also don’t drink or smoke, because I believe her smoking and drinking contributed her to dementia.

Bonus: If you could pick any animal to talk, which would it be?

An Orca Killer Whale. I grew up around these fantastic creatures. I had the opportunity to feed Namu and scratch his back with a rake. My brother swam with him and I walked on Namu’s back. I felt in immediate connection with him. A gentle giant if ever there was one.



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TMI Tuesday: July 14, 2020: This or That


1. Money or Fame? Why?

Money. I shy away from fame. I don’t like the spotlight on me with thousands of people. I can handle having attention in small groups. But people who are famous are scrutinized on everything they do.

2. Fish or Chicken?

Depends, in what context? To watch? Fish. To eat? That would be a toss up between prawns and Buffalo chicken wings.

3. Sleeping at night–too warm or too cold?

I’m like Goldilocks… and I want it to be just right. If I’m too cold or too warm, I can’t sleep at all. Ideally, my best sleeping conditions are several warm blankets and the window open, even in winter.

4. Beard or Moustache? Why?

Both… I get turned on by men my age with a graying beard and mustache to match the hair on their heads. And love the scratchy, tickling feel of both between my legs.

5. Cars–classic or modern?

Oh, classic, hands down. It seems like all of the cars these days all look the same or look like toasters on wheels. My first car was a 1966 Navy Blue Mustang, but I almost bought a 1957 Chevy. I’d love to have both today. But ultimately, I’d love to have one of these:

If I was rich, I would have a collection of classic cars that I would never drive, just look at.

6. Which holds more beauty–smile or eyes?

Eyes first, and then smile. I distrust people who never smile. But eyes truly are the window of the soul.

7. Soothing the soul–hiking or shopping?

For me neither. I tend to live by this quote:

“I prefer thought to action, an idea to an event, reflection to activity.”

While I like spending money and buying things, I’ve never liked wandering from store to store just looking. I know what I want, I want to get in, get it and get out.

Bonus: What is your favorite type of foreplay?

First a devilish glint in his eye.



Bondage and toys and a little bit of spanking.

Edging using whatever he chooses.


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TMI Tuesday: July 7, 2020

I’m back. A week without the Internet felt like a month. I had my cell phone, but it’s hard to do much on that. At least I could still be in touch with some people. So I’m especially happy to be able to do this week’s TMI.

1. What is the last song you sang?

“Sweet Dreams Are Made of This” by the Eurythmics. I’m fascinated by Annie Lennex in the video of this song. It’s very BDSM to me; “Some of them want to abuse you Some of them want to be abused”. I remember that an exercise class used this song in a routine and I always want to get up do that routine.

Another song that I listened to right after was Katy Perry’s Dark Horse. I love this song and video and I can listen to it over and over again. It also reminds me of BDSM, but more from a Domme’s perspective, which is a dark fantasy of mine.

2. What place are you longing to visit?

Places I’ve never been? Well, that leaves the choices wide open, but I have two at the top of my list; Paris, France and Kyoto, Japan. I also would love to spend some time in New York City, and go back to San Francisco and Maui.

3. Tell us about the last time you were insulted?

Actually it was someone who read my blog and then posted on her own about how “yucky” old people were and the things we eat. I hate to remind this sweet child that one day she will old too. I wonder how she will deal with young children making fun of her?

4. When was the last time you hung out with anyone not in your immediate household? What did you do?

Hung out? I’m pretty much homebound so it’s been years since I hung out with anyone. It was probably five years ago when I went to Seattle for a week and met up with some former school classmates. I went over the next year too. It was fun. But my disability has made it difficult to do again and Covid has made it impossible. Seattle has changed alot since I last lived there (20 years) and there were drive by shootings while I was there in an area that never use to have that problem. 

5. Fill in the blank: I spend a lot of hours _____ .

I spend a lot of hours reading, researching, writing and sharing. It’s pretty much my whole life.

Bonus: Which is worse–smelly feet or smelly breath?

Smelly breath! I mean it’s right there in your face?


TMI Tuesday: June 30, 2020: Robots and Love

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1. Should we be worried about sex robots?

I have been fascinated about robots for years. I even use to run a yahoo email group about robots. I’m not worried about them as sex partners at all. I feel for a lot of people it will be a needed tool to keep them sexually active. People always proclaim: “What about the human interaction? They will be missing out on that!!” Well, guess what, there are people who are already missing out on human interaction for one reason or another. Should they be further penalized because they have limits and are unable to relate to another human being? There are those who are physically disabled and usually are over looked as sex partners by able bodied people. They have as strong sexual desires as anyone else and they might easily choose to have sex robot to fulfill their desires. Then there are those who just have a hard time relating to other people. Robots will be a part of our lives more and more all the time. It doesn’t have to be something we are afraid of. 

2. A humanoid (a life-like robot) that looks like your biggest crush, and acts exactly the way you hoped your crush would act has been created. This humanoid initiates sex, with you. Would you have sex with the humanoid?

Of course, I would need more information about this humanoid robot, see it, talk to it, find out it’s prime objective. But I would have no problem having sex with a robot. I would see it as just another tool in my sexual repertoire, much like my Hitachi vibrator.

3. What’s your typical sleep attire?

I sleep completely naked. I hate getting twisted and tied up in nightgowns.

4. What is the most cringe-worthy thing you have experienced in the bedroom?

I am almost reluctant to say this as I know other people’s fetishes provide something they need, but at the time this was a total turn off for me. It was a one night stand (don’t judge, this was the 70’s) and the guy just wanted me to watch while he masturbated while wearing women’s red lace panties. I would say he just had the wrong partner for this. It bugged me that he assumed all women would get off on this.

5. Are you satisfied with the amount of after-sex affection (e.g., spooning, cuddling, intimate conversation) you receive? yes or no . If no, how could it be better?

In general, no. Two areas that most men (no, not all) fail in, are foreplay and after sex. Foreplay doesn’t mean just after you get naked and into bed. Foreplay starts long before which includes suggestions, ideas, teasing, anticipation… talking about it long before it happens, texting, sexting, sexing phone calls through out the day until you finally can get together physically. And then after it’s like once it’s over for him, it’s over for everyone. I have lost count as to how many men came, pulled out, rolled over and went to sleep. In almost all cases I never had an orgasm. A smart man will make sure his partner has had an orgasm before he does… one guy told me his motto was “ladies come first” and he lived up to that. And after sex, cuddling is appreciated, talking to me like I’m still there is VERY appreciated. Otherwise you end up feeling like nothing more important than a sex toy.

Bonus: What is your most useless skill?

I can name that tune and artist after just about 6 notes. Not sure when that will ever come in handy.



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TMI Tuesday: June 9, 2020: What Is….

1. What is your phone screensaver at the moment?

I use the one that came with the phone. I like the colors and design and I’m basically lazy. When I get bored with it, I’ll figure out how to change it.

2. What is currently on your playlist? (list top 5)

3. What are your last three internet searches?

More information about BIPOC

Looking for a fashion design software program

Searching for a photo 

4. What is your favorite sandwich filling?

Cheese with mayo, pickles and lettuce. I do like tuna with cheese and grilled into a tuna melt. I also love cream cheese, sliced tomatoes and sliced onions.

5. What is one staple item all men should own?

Whatever makes him the most comfortable. For some that will a suit and tie and for others jeans and a teeshirt. If they are comfortable and secure they will be more relaxed and not be worried about themselves.


Vintage TMI Tuesday: Gone Hollywood

Another old TMI snagged from Sassy Cat: Sassy Cat: Gone Hollywood

1. If a screenwriter turned you into a character in a movie,
a. What stock Hollywood character would it be most like? The Girl Next Door
b. What actor/actress would play you? Cybill Shepherd


2. What genre of movie is your life most like? For example: romantic comedy, goofball comedy, spy, coming of age, action/adventure, sci-fi, etc    Probably coming of age.

3. What kind of scene in a movie would you like to play most? Why? A high speed car chase that ends in a love scene
a. Argument
b. Love scene
c. Gun fight
d. High-speed car chase

4. Have you ever looked around you and thought “this is like a scene from a movie”? There are times when I’ve wondered why there was no background music.

5. Have you ever looked at a character in a movie and said, “Hey, that could be me”? Way too often but I can’t come up with a specific example.

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Vintage TMI: Flashback then Fast Forward – TMI Tuesday

I snagged this from Sassy Cat at You Won’t Tame This Sassy Cat and couldn’t resist posting it. She first posted it in 2011.

1. What ’80s or ’90s fashion did you love but would be embarrassed to wear today, even if it came back in style?

A tutu. I mean, I thought it was cute then and I still think it’s cute. I just wouldn’t wear it, then or now.

2. What current fashion do you wear and love? Or What current fashion do you wear but probably shouldn’t?

My favorite style now is Boho! Long skirts or dresses and denim jackets. I have three denim jackets, one in blue, one white and one pink. And about a dozen long maxi sundresses. I can’t think of anything current that I wear but shouldn’t. I’ve reached the age where I feel I can wear any damn thing I want… even a tutu.


3. What was your favorite toy as a kid?

My dolls… both Barbies and baby dolls. My bike was a close second and maybe my skateboard.

4. What is your favorite “toy” today?

My computer, and by extension, my cell phone and lap top.

5. Did you ever own a Sony Walkman? A boombox?

Yes I had a Walkman, which was just slightly more impressive than the transistor radios that we had in the 60’s. I did have a boombox. And I just bought a new one now so that I can listen to music while I sleep.

6. What’s the most played song on your mp3 player?

mp3 player? Ten years later… I have Amazon music on my phone, desktop and laptop. Right now it’s two… Katy Perry’s Dark Horse and Frozen’s Let It Go.

7. Who was your best friend in elementary/primary school?

I had two.. Judy and Janis. Judy and I lugged a huge wooden dollhouse between our two hours and played with Barbies. Janis and I loved our Tiny Tears and Betsy Wetsy dolls.

8. Who is your best friend now? 


9. Who was your favorite musical group in your early teens (age 13/14)? Post a photo.

The Beatles, of course…


I even tried to wear my hair like Jane Asher, who was Paul McCartney’s girlfriend at the time.


10. Who is your favorite musical group now? Post a link to a song of theirs that you like.

Only one? Led Zeppelin, Pink Floyd, Moody Blues, but a more current one is Linkin Park and my favorite song of theirs is Burn It Down. Oh and Mackelmore’s Can’t Hold Us.

Some of this video was filmed in Seattle and Macklemore attended the same high school that I did.. but many years later.

Bonus: What do you think is the secret to a good life?

To appreciate what you already have, learn new things and have something to look forward to in the future.


TMI Tuesday: May 12, 2020: Ain’t Misbehaving

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1. How replaceable are you?

Depends who you ask, but I suspect I could easily be replaced.

2. Does jealousy have value in driving humans to improve themselves or is it a purely negative emotion?

Again, it depends. For some people I could see how being jealous, or at least a little envious of someone else could prompt them to make changes for themselves. But I think for many jealousy is a controlling negative emotion that doesn’t end up making anyone happy.

3. A section of your life’s memories needs to be erased, which era will you elect to have erased?
a. childhood memories – age 3 to 12
b. teen and young adult years – age 13 to 23
c. adult – age 24 to 35

Childhood memories for sure. While there were some moments of fun and joy, there were also too much abuse and neglect. I’m still dealing with the after affects of it all.

4. With no laws or rules to influence your behavior, how do you think you would behave?

I am a people pleaser so I doubt even then I would take advantage of anyone else.

5. Does anonymity encourage people to misbehave or does it reveal how people would choose to act all the time if they could?

I think it shows their true colors and how they would act and react all the time. The reaction of people to quarantine and the coronavirus pretty much illustrates that. People react to the mob mentality of things they might not do on their own.

Bonus: In the time of coronavirus pandemic, what are you rocking–homemade face covering or manufactured mask?

A bit of both. I uploaded three of my collage designs to Fine Art America where they can be made into non-surgical cloth masks.





TMI Tuesday: May 5, 2020: How Sexy Are You?

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1. Do you have a strong imagination? Why do you think this?

I think so. I’m able to come up with story ideas, including erotica. I create collages that requires some imagination. I’m able to try new things.

2. Are you confident?

For many things, yes. I’m confident in my ability to try those new things even if they end up not being something I want to continue with. I’m confident of the things I can do and accomplish.

3. Do you consider yourself to be sensual?
a. You bet I am!
b. Eek, no way.
c. In the right moments, I can be.

In the right moments I can be. I see sensual as being aware of how things affect and interact with my five senses as well as my emotions and drives (sex, food, education).

4. When was the last time you dressed provocatively to entice flirting or attention?

I can’t even remember. I can fantasize about very sexy clothing or “outfits” and love to style them using different online apps (use to be polyvore), but I rarely actually wear those outfits. If I want to entice I prefer to be naked. I know, not very imaginative, is it?

5. How often do you think about sex?

Daily. I think about it, fantasize about it, write about it, read about it and on occasion even partake.

6. If someone called you ‘sexy,’ what would you do?

That they need glasses? Seriously, it took me years to understand that there are people who find people like me sexy and desirable. I grew up hearing just the opposite.

7. Are you comfortable with your body?

Getting there but it’s taken me years to finally accept myself as I am. Not completely. I use to hate my boobs but now I love them. I think I have a great ass. Still working on my arms and belly.

Bonus: Are you good at getting what you want?

No. I was raised to never ask for anything. And it’s still hard for me to do that. I don’t like to play games to get what I want so I’ve learned to just get what I want on my own.