Covid…..Say What? — The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

I am gonna say it…..I am a little annoyed. I don’t know about anyone else but Covid-19 is not an abstract thought for me. Not in the least. Gentleman in our area that passed from Covid-19 turned out to be second cousin to a close friend of mine. My mom had to quarantine because a […]

via Covid…..Say What? — The Wonderful and Wacky World of One Single Mom

“I want people to realize the severity of this crisis.

To behave accordingly.
To stop wailing about their government attempting to save their lives.
To realize that they are not the be all and end all of the world.
Because based on my most recent transactions about 95% of the people I deal with
feel that this is being done to them intentionally.
That is right…….the world is inconveniencing them on purpose!
Grow up.
See beyond yourselves.
Be a part of the solution not the problem.
I know I should put an addendum.
I know that this is an issue where people believe or they don’t.
But I am done being polite.
I am done being nice.
Grow the fuck up.
Get your head out of your ass.
If you are not part of the solution you are the problem.
And truthfully I could not care if you get sick.”
Facebook refused to allow me to post this on my wall. Said it goes against their community standards.

Telling people about a pandemic virus goes against their standards.

Yet, Trump can post any conspiracy theory he wants and they allow that.

So I’m reposting it here and I will post it on Twitter. I agree with this 100%

Healing Herbal Tea Blend


This is my tea blend recipe

Healing Herbal Tea Blend

4 oz Skullcap
4 oz Burdock Root
4 oz Red Clover Blossoms
2 oz Red Clover Herb Powder
2 oz Alfalfa Leaf
4 oz Hibiscus Flowers
4 oz Chamomile Flowers
2 oz Rosehips Powder

Optional (added these later)
2 oz Lemon Balm
2 oz Cramp Bark
2 oz Hawthorn Leaf and Flower
2 oz Blue Vervain
2 oz Valerian Root

Mix together in a bowl and store in a glass jar.

If you can’t get it all at once, I recommend started out with Red Clover, Hibiscus, Chamomile and Lemon Balm and then add to it one herb at a time.

I buy everything from Mountain Rose Herbs:

Friday is Boobday: Light Funnies

I don’t want to make “light” of boobs (mine are anything but light). I actually like my boobs, although at one time I didn’t. For years I was embarrassed by them and hated them. Once I started learning about sexuality, much too late, I started to appreciate and enjoy my own tits as well as others. Better late than never, right?

But I can still smile at boob jokes too…







5 Things Mentally Strong People Do; Things You Need To Do To Cope With The COVID-19 Pandemic — Phicklephilly

The global lockdown caused by COVID-19 may seem like a forced vacation to some people. But for many in isolation, the restrictions, fear and uncertainty can make it seem like torture. According to Psychology Today’s report, the stress that people are experiencing during the coronavirus pandemic may lead to negative feelings that will result in […]

This also have a sense of humor, are able to entertain themselves, they are able to look to the future and they are resilient.

5 things mentally strong people do to cope with the COVID-19 pandemic

1. They accept their feelings as normal.

2. They limit news and media exposure.

3. They limit social media exposure.

4. They meditate.

5. They focus on facts.

via 5 Things Mentally Strong People Do; Things You Need To Do To Cope With The COVID-19 Pandemic — Phicklephilly

Discover Prompts: Grateful

Sometimes it helps to stop to reflect on the good things in your life, to find something to be grateful for. Times are tough, there is no question about it. But there can almost always be some good thing and some benefits of a bad situation. So there are the things I’m grateful today.

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  1. That I am doing well healthwise.
  2. That no one in my extended family has fallen ill to Covid 19
  3. That I am able to self-quarantine at home and find ways to get the things I need.
  4. That my granddaughter was able to fly home from Texas where she is going to college. Because of the coronavirus, air fees are very low so getting home to Idaho was cheap and easy.
  5. That I have Internet access and my desktop computer, lap top and cell phone so I can stay in touch with friends and family.
  6. Having a good medical team and primary doctor who cares about my needs, even if she does push me to do somethings I really don’t want to do. But I wanted a good doctor, so I have to at least meet her halfway.
  7. The ability to do researching and studying to learn a whole variety of things and the time to do both. There are so many new (and old) things to learn about life, about the past and seeing ideas for the future.
  8. Wonderful music playlists to listen to as often as I want.
  9. My own movie collection to choose from when I want to watch a movie as well as all of the online options.
  10. A room full of craft supplies to explore my creative side.
  11. My beloved niece who checks up on me every day and sends me videos of what her children are doing to keep busy.
  12. Plenty of everything I need to survive, keep healthy and happy… a warm home, food to eat, things to entertain myself, things to educate myself and connections to others for my social life.

Mindful Breathing


Get into a comfortable position (sitting, lying, standing), that supports you being awake and aware.

Turn your attention to the purpose of the sensations that happen as you breathe. You may wish to close your eyes if it helps you to focus your attention on your breathing.

Find a place in your body (tip of your nose, your chest, your abdomen…) where you can actually feel the breathe moving in and out.

Rest your attention there, where you can feel your breath most easily.

It is not necessary to control your breathing.

Release worries, fears, needs, burdens (inner and outer). It is not necessary to make anything happen. Just let it be.

If you notice your attention wandering, notice where it went and gently bring it back to your breathing. Your mind will wander countless times. Each time it does, practice kindness and patience with yourself, notice where your attention wandered and bring back to mindfulness.

~ Five Good Minutes by Jeffrey Brantley and Wendy Millstine

January Jumpstart Jan 9 Your Whole Brain

This is image is older because we now know that there are other things that use the entire brain, one of them being writing. This is important to me, because my mother died of Alzheimers 7 years ago (on Jan 14th), and I want to make sure I don’t have go that way too. My mother didn’t use her brain enough… she rarely read anything, and it was usually just magazines, not books, and she never wrote anything, other than letters. She was pretty good about that, but email confounded her and she hated the “new-fangled cell phones” and refused to use one. My stepdad posted things to Facebook and a family email group for her, because she never learned how to type. I think these two things, along with smoking and drinking, were her downfall. She did do some creative pursuits like sewing and painting, but as time went on, she stopped doing these too.

Because I felt bad about my mother’s lack of intellectual pursuits, I threw myself into them. Reading, books and the library were my life. Writing became an extension of all of that reading. While I didn’t do as well in school as I would have liked, I enjoyed learning new things and I still do. I was always told I wasn’t living up to my potential and the school’s expectations and I would learn why when I was 38, when I was diagnosed with ADHD. I would also be diagnosed with OCD, DID and PTSD, years after the fact, but they still interferred with my education and learning ability.

But all of this didn’t stop me from wanting to read and learn as much as I could. In fact, books and the library became a refuge from the pain and the trauma.

When I worked at middle school, they started giving staff seminars and workshops on how the brain worked. Suddenly, things started to make sense to me. I’m still fascinated about how the brain works.

So when I read the following, it all started to fit together like a jigsaw puzzle:

‘I just read something in an issue of The New Yorker Magazine about writing that really captured my attention.

“The subjects were given a few sentences from a short story to copy verbatim, in order to establish a baseline (during a CATscan type of imaging), and were then told to ‘brainstorm’ for sixty seconds and then to continue writing ‘creatively’ for two more minutes. It was noted that during the brainstorming part of the test, magnetic imaging showed that the sensorimotor and visual areas were activated; once creative writing started, these areas were joined by the bilateral dorsolateral prefrontal cortex, the left inferior frontal gyrus, the left thalamus, and the inferior temporal gyrus. In short, writing seems to be a whole brain activity… a brainstorm indeed.”*

*The Next Word” by John Seabrook Oct 14, 2019 Issue of The New Yorker’

Other things that I found that supported this idea and that I found interesting included:

“Myth #1 – Humans Only Use 10% of Their Brain

That’s a load of hooey.

Neuroscientists exist to study the brain; they’ve been doing it for years and have gotten pretty good at it. They take their work seriously, but if you ask any one of them about the “unused section of your brain,” they’ll probably laugh at you.

Myth #2 – The Left Brain and the Right Brain

The second myth that we need to bust is a very widely held belief. That of the left brain and the right brain.

Many believe that the human population can be split into two categories: the analytical left-brain thinkers and the creative right-brain thinkers.

While some people can be defined by their logic and some by their creativity, it’s not the side of the brain they most use that gives them those traits.”

This information came from a site called Craft Your Content and the article is called Science Behind Writing Brain.

On the Writing Cooperative on Medium, I found this article:

“If you understand the different types of thinking available to you and understand your how your brain works then you’ll find it much easier to create quality work. The first thing to realise is that the styles of thinking come in oppositional pairs.

This is important to remember because it is highly unlikely that you would be able to do both at the same time. It’s also very likely that you’d favour one style over another during the course of your writing career. This may leave deficits your ability to write/edit your own work.

The four oppositional pairs are:

Creative Thinking vs. Analytical Thinking

Convergent Thinking vs. Divergent Thinking

Concrete Thinking vs. Abstract Thinking

Sequential Thinking vs. Holistic Thinking“*

This made sense to me in so many ways… Although we are all humans, we have very obvious differences in ideas, beliefs, needs, desires… And although we all have a brain, how it works has very subtle differences and can be seeing how how we chose to communicate, how we learn, how we think, how we speak and more…

This is why education was so difficult for me. The school wanted me to learn their way and I needed to learn my way. I’m glad that schools are finally starting to get the message and realize that since not everyone learns the same way, we all need to be taught in ways that help each of us learn the best.

That’s how learning about how the brain works in regards to reading, writing and learning can make a huge difference, including in how we write.

And how does the music graphic relate to this? Music is a form of communication, notes are like letters of the alphabet and it’s own form of language. Studies have shown that people who learn about music often have an easier time time learning to read.

So there ya go.

Jan 1 Simple Abundance: Transformative Year


Every year I look forward to the new year as being a year to transform into something better, something stronger, something wiser. If that is happening, I’m not seeing it.

“There are years that ask questions and years that answer. Zora Neale Hurston.

And are there years when nothing happens? Sometimes I feel like this is what 2019 was like for me. But I now realize that I spent the entire year of asking questions.. what, why? Will 2020 finally answer those questions and find solutions.

“New Year’s Day. A fresh start. A new chapter in the life waiting to be written. New questions to be asked, embraced, and loved. Answers to be discovered and then lived in this transformative year of delight and self discovery.”

I’m not sure I would see my health issues as delightful, although they might be a vehicle of self discovery. But maybe if I change my attitude a bit, I can see moving to a new home as both a delightful self discovery.

“Today carve out a quiet interlude for yourself in which to dream, pen in hand. Only dreams give birth to change. What are you hopes for the future as you reflect on the years that have passed?”

Right now, my hopes are for more comfort. Comfort in less pain physically, a more accessible and comfortable home, comfort in finding some accomplishment and success.

“Gradually as you become curator of your own contentment, you will learn to embrace the gentle yearnings of your heart. But this year, instead of resolutions, write down your most private aspirations. Those longings you have kept tucked away until the time seems right. Trust that now is the time.”

Trust. Time. Can I?

“Ask the questions. The Simple Abundance path brings confidence that the answers will come and we will discover, day by day, how to live them.

Take a leap of faith and begin this wondrous new year by believing. Believe in yourself.” 

Orgasm? What Orgasm?

In 2006 I had a hysterectomy and my female doctor told me to say goodbye to a sex life, that most women who have this lose their sex drive completely. I bought into that. No one told me that medications I had been on since 2000 (anti-depressants, anti-anxiety meds, sleeping pills and later lots of pain pills) would actually be the cause. It was the old idea of: “you’re over 50, what would you want to have sex for anyway, be happy it’s over!!”

When I finally decided that enough was enough in 2011 and decided go off of all meds, which took me two years of tapering down, I really didn’t know what to expect and frankly, at that point, sex was the least of my concerns.

But in 2013, while I lie on the couch shaking in pain from severe withdrawal, I discovered quite by accident that by masturbating until I achieved an orgasm greatly helped my pain. Now, up this point, I had rarely had an orgasm, so this was amazing.

Once I finally was able to get up off the couch and get back on the computer, I started researching why this was happening.. why now, at this point in my life. Shouldn’t sex be the last thing on my mind?

What I learned astounded me. And royally pissed me off. The things the doctors told me were wrong. All the things I learned in my 20’s and 30’s were wrong. The things we were taught as young girls in the 60’s were WRONG!!

All of this has led to a six year study of human sexuality and the realization that what is being taught to kids and adults about sex is STILL wrong. And they wonder why people are so messed up. This is one very good reason.