For way too much of my life I’ve been a people pleaser… pretty much a doormat. I did want people wanted me to do. Did what people told me to do. I allowed people to gaslight me with guilt trips so that I would do what they wanted me to do. I allowed people to dump on me the feelings they couldn’t say to others, and once they dumped it there, it became my fault and not theirs.
Those days are over. I am now going my own way… forging my own path. Don’t like what I have to say, what I do, what I believe, what I think, especially if it is different from what you embrace? Well, that’s the way it goes. I’m not here to make you happy, to entertain you, to please you, to obey you. The only time that will ever happen is when I enter into a D/s relationship with someone and even then it’s MY decision to do so, based on four aspects… communication, consent, respect and responsibility.
But those four aspects should be a part of any relationship… parenting, marriage, love, friendship, neighbors, teachers and students. Why isn’t it?