TMI Tuesday: January 21, 2020

1. What makes you dislike life?

Right now, it’s pain. Pain makes it hard to focus on anything. It wears me out. It’s hard to accomplish much when you are sore and tired.

2. When has a mundane occurrence or chance completely changed the course of your life?

So many… but maybe the one that is the most mundane that caused the most problems was simply driving down the highway on a bright sunny summer day until someone who decided rules didn’t apply to him, caused a five car pile up that left me disabled. Not totally at first, although the doctor was convinced it would. I proved him wrong by learning to walk again when they said I couldn’t. But that led to a one problem after another for the past 35 years… A compound fracture that required 6 operations to fix; two Lymphoma tumors on the same leg, drug addiction after all of the medications from the accident, cancer and my daughter’s death (and eventually complete withdrawal from all drugs), and now a radiation ulcer where the tumors were and loss of use of my leg from all of the problems.

3. What has taken up too much of your life?

This is sounding redundant but disability and pain. I have better things to do that this!

4. What is the most ridiculous rule you have to follow?

To stay with the same theme… anything a doctor thinks I should do. In some cases, I try to comply. But I’m getting bolder and more vocal and starting to say “hell no!” to some of them. The most recent is the insistence that I use a CPAP machine for sleep apnea that I’m not convinced I even have. I refuse to use one and I have had half a dozen doctors get upset with me because I say no.

5. What does the voice in your head say?

The voices in my head rarely talk to me anymore because they are too busy arguing amongst themselves. Which is fine. I don’t want to get involved.

Bonus: What’s better than great sex?

According to Pinterest… this cake:

Better Than Sex Cake

 1 box devil’s food cake mix 

14 ounce can sweetened condensed milk 

12 ounce jar caramel ice cream topping 

8 ounces Cool Whip

½-1 cup Heath toffee bits

It’s funny on Pinterest, this cake is often listed as “Better Than You Know What” Cake, or “Better than Anything” Cake, cuz ya just can’t utter the word “sex”. Gasp!! Perish the thought! That’s even worse than the conservative Christians who refuse to called Deviled Eggs by that name and call them “Angel Eggs” instead. How precious.

So is this cake better than great sex? Hmmm… I guess I’m gonna have to just try them both to find out.

10 thoughts on “TMI Tuesday: January 21, 2020

    1. Pain is one of those areas that is just not understood by the medical community. There are so many that deal with it, so that needs to change.


  1. 1, 3, & 4) I can totally understand pain and doctors. Back in 2014 I had excruciating pain in my feet. I worked on my feet for 8 hours each night and could hardly walk by the end. Repeat this for years. The doctors and physical therapists always “assured me” it was a weight issue. Yes, I am overweight, but it was more than that. I finally found a doctor to listen to me, and we discovered it was arthritis and tarsel tunnel combined.

    5) It’s best not to engage. :p

    Bonus) That cake looks amazing.

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    1. Boy can I relate to that. I had one doctor tell me (without listening to my heart and lungs or doing any tests) that the reason I was out of breath was because I was old, fat and out of shape. Ten days later I ended up in the ICU with A-fib and congestive heart failure. Maybe if had done is job, that would have been discovered before it became an emergency. I now have a doctor who treats me like an human being. Makes a huge difference.


  2. Urgh! So sorry to hear that pain is such a large part of your existence. May your strength of spirit and endurance continue to prevail.

    Also, good for you for advocating for what you want in terms of quality of life. So many think that doctors are always right. But, only you know how you feel…and in the end, it is your body. So, your opinion matters.

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    1. I’ve been dealing with the results of the accident for a long time. It’s everything else added in that makes it so frustrating. I’m hoping that I can do the same thing now that I did last time.


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