Rant: Judgmental People

I just saw some comments on Facebook about Oregon passing a bill for free abortions. These were coming from pro-life Christians I know. Comments of “sick people” and “monsters”. This really upset me and shows how little these people understand about women who choose to have an abortion. There are dozens of reasons why they would make this choice.

For those who agree with these comments, I have a few questions for you.

Have you ever had to make the agonizing decision of continuing your pregnancy or aborting a baby for a variety of reasons?

If you insist that a pregnant mother continue her pregnancy, are you willing to put your money where you mouth is and help her pay for the costs of having that baby? Are you going to buy diapers and formula for her? Are you going to hold her hand during labor? Are you going to babysit this infant so the mother can work? Are you going to be there for her when she can’t physically, emotionally, mentally or financially care this tiny child?

If she decides to give the baby up for adoption, are you willing to adopt the child?

Unless you answer “yes” to these questions, you are so totally out of line judging someone else’s choices.

So, who really are the sick monsters?

“Judge not lest ye be judged” ~ Matthew 7

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To clarify, I am a Pro Choice Atheist who understands the trauma of having to make this decision. I had to do it twice.

The first time I was 20, became pregnant and we decided to get married. Until I walked in on him in bed with another girl. I was 3 months pregnant and worried if I could afford to have a baby on my own and if I was emotionally mature enough to raise a child. I sought counseling from Planned Parenthood and in the end decided to have my baby. But I miscarried three weeks later.

The second time was after I married and became pregnant almost immediately after the wedding. I had gotten sick with food poisoning and the doctor said that the baby would most likely be mentally disabled because of it. We agonized over the decision to have the baby or abort and again decided to go ahead with the pregnancy. Again, I miscarried, this time in the 5th month.

Two pregnancies, two horrible decisions, two miscarriages. I was terrified to try again, but a year later, I gave birth to a healthy son.

I have several friends who had abortions and none of them went into the choice lightly. But all of them said they don’t regret the decision. It allowed them to have the family, the career or lifestyle they have afterwards.

But I also talked to several women who felt pressured to have their babies. One was just 14 when she got pregnant and was 20 with a 6 year old child when I met her. She hated motherhood, resented her daughter and felt cheated of her teenage years due to having a baby long before she was ready for it. Others echoed these same sentiments. When it came down to it, none of these young women felt like they have any support when they have their babies, being told “you made your bed”… it’s your own fault.

These are the same people who don’t want kids to have good sex education and birth control and then abandon them when the naive kids get pregnant.

Vintage TMI Tuesday: Gone Hollywood

Another old TMI snagged from Sassy Cat: Sassy Cat: Gone Hollywood

1. If a screenwriter turned you into a character in a movie,
a. What stock Hollywood character would it be most like? The Girl Next Door
b. What actor/actress would play you? Cybill Shepherd

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2. What genre of movie is your life most like? For example: romantic comedy, goofball comedy, spy, coming of age, action/adventure, sci-fi, etc    Probably coming of age.

3. What kind of scene in a movie would you like to play most? Why? A high speed car chase that ends in a love scene
a. Argument
b. Love scene
c. Gun fight
d. High-speed car chase

4. Have you ever looked around you and thought “this is like a scene from a movie”? There are times when I’ve wondered why there was no background music.

5. Have you ever looked at a character in a movie and said, “Hey, that could be me”? Way too often but I can’t come up with a specific example.

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The Shit List

I borrowed this idea from Lael-Heart at Heartstyle 

Passwords that don’t work, or at least don’t seem to transfer well between my desktop, laptop and cell phone.

WordPress’s “Block Editor”… maybe I just don’t understand how it works, but I’m not impressed with it.

Pain that nothing touches

People who don’t take this virus seriously and just flaunt their ignorance for the rest of the world to see.

Selfish people who live only for instant gratification.

I guess that’s not too bad, but any one of them seems like too much at the time.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Things I Can’t Live Without

I “borrowed” this idea from Mr A at Barbarian Gentlemen because I liked the idea so well.

We had some similarities, but some big differences too.

My desktop computer… I’ve had this desktop computer for years. It was custom designed for me and the same system guru who designed it still helps me to maintain it. It’s had the have the motherboard replaced a few times but it keeps working for me. I would love to add a second monitor to the system someday.

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My Samsung Galaxy A20 Android Phone. It took me a while to work up to one of these, when I started with an old fashioned flip phone. Now I don’t know what I would do without it.

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My Samsung Digital Camera that is a beautiful cherry red.

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My HP Laptop with mint green cordless mouse and matching mousepad.

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My personal library of books. I have a set of bookshelves behind my desk filled with books, everything from novels (although most are now on my Kindle app on my desktop computer) to genealogy research books to books on religion and history to books about art and crafts project and needlework.

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My wheelchair. This helps me to get around away from home, but when I’m at home it serves as my desk chair too.

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Facemasks. The first one I bought is very pretty… white and studded with rhinestones, so it’s very blinging. I have also ordered several other washable cloth masks using my own collage designs. They haven’t arrived yet and I can’t wait to see how they turned out.

Tea. I drink a lot of tea. And I drink a variety of kinds such as Hibiscus, Lavender, Orange Pekoe and Earl Gray. I have a cup warmer on my desk to keep my cup of tea hot.

Music. Music keeps me going. I have Amazons music app on my desktop that allows me constantly add to it and lets me create different playlists. I have a boombox next to my bed to play music CD’s before I got to bed.

Bidet. I have just recently gotten this and now I can’t imagine life without it.

My vibrator. I think you know why.

Reminiscences: Wind

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I saw a new project on Mrs. Fever’s memoir prompt wind and I knew I wanted to participate in this project. I finally found the time to do so.

Wind. There is so much I can say about it. I love windy days and big wind storms, until the power goes out. I love windsocks and have even made a few. I love flying kites in the wind, although it’s been a while since I’ve had the opportunity to do that. My dad use to windsurf, even up into his 80’s… he is 91 now and had to finally give up his hobby. One thing I’ve never tried is sailing, which is weird considering I grew up in the town called “the boat capital of the world”. Oh, we had boats of course… rowboats and paddle boards and canoes and kayaks, and outboard motor boats and cruisers and one big one that looked like a barge. My dad built boats while I was growing up, including a salmon fishing boat that he used in Westport and then eventually sailed to Hawaii then sold it and then stayed in Hawaii to live. But we never had a sailboat.

But when I think of wind, I think of songs with “wind” in the name of the song.

“Windy” by the Association… which I adopted as my theme song… (windy, cindi, get it?)

“They Call the Wind Mariah” which is from the movie “Paint Your Wagon”. Elliott used this song is his version of this prompt: They Call The Wind Mariah

“Wind Beneath My Wings” by Bette Midler (from the movie “Beaches”)

“Dust in the Wind” by Kansas

“Blowing in the Wind”…. done by Bob Dylan and another version by Peter, Paul and Mary.

“Candle in the Wind” by Elton John. He did a version of this in honor of Princess Diana after she died. My daughter’s dance team did a tribute to my daughter at the spring recital after my daughter died.

“She’s Like the Wind” by Patrick Swayze (from the movie “Dirty Dancing”)

“Summer Wind” by Frank Sinatra

“And The Wind Cries Mary” by Jimi Hendrix

“Against the Wind” by Bob Segar

“Colors of the Wind” by Vanessa Williams (from the movie “Pocahontas”

 

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